• My Life

    Front Porch Conversations

    There are many people who have passed that I would like to sit with on a front porch, rocking slowly in two red adirondack chairs. We'll shoot the breeze over some fresh-squeezed lemonade, my Great Grandma Weaver's sugar cookies on a table between us, still warm from the oven.

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    ONE WORD

    A couple of years ago I decided to forego the annual resolution gig. Not that I was always good about making resolutions. Nor was I good about keeping them once I made them. Resolutions tend to make me focus on behavioral changes and result in guilt rather than growth. Honestly, if I made it to February, I would celebrate that as a win. Two years ago I stumbled upon a lot of friends and bloggers who had sworn off resolutions and instead were beginning each new year with a theme word – a word they would aspire to; a word they would grow toward – rather than a behavior, they would run away…

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    YOU ARE AWESOME

    Tuesday was the one year anniversary of the eternal homecoming of an awesome guy, Chad Rogers.  Chad was a friend of mine, a friend of thousands, a beloved son, dad, husband, brother, nephew . . . . I always knew Chad was well-loved and the outpouring of postings on the anniversary of his death was just another reminder of Chad’s beautiful legacy.  Like me, the guy wasn’t perfect and Chad was the first to own this – which is probably one of the big reasons so many of us loved him.  He was real. One of the things I love about social media is the on-going tributes that are shared when someone loved…

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    "Don't Put Off Til Tomorrow… " Okay. Tomorrow is Fine but Definitely Not the Day After That.

    I can be a bit of a procrastinator. And by “bit” I mean complete.  I actually started this post three years ago.  Last week I finally cleaned out a kitchen cabinet screaming for attention for years. I ended up throwing away some weird salsa given to me as a house warming present. For my first house. The one I bought in 2000. (Yes, wise one – that means I packed it and moved it instead of throwing it away.)  When I procrastinate on a project and someone offers to help me, I’ll say “No, no.  A lack of planning on my part doesn’t constitute an emergency on your part.”  But I…

  • Faith Reflections,  My Life

    A Life Well-Lived

    I wrote yesterday about the importance of showing up. I’ve thought a lot the past month about how important it is to be present with others simply because I saw one person do it exceptionally well.  Someone who showed up in the lives of others – even when he was miles away.  If there was an Olympic event for being present with others, Chad Rogers would have won gold and broke records doing it. And then he would have made all of us come up and stand with him on that little box to receive our medal together.  The dude excelled at the ministry of presence and I, along with…

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    The Importance of Showing Up

    Several years ago I was sitting in a parking lot of a resort waiting to check in to my room for a weekend vacation. I’d been looking forward to getting away for a little introvert time. I went to the office to check-in and was met by a young woman obviously stressed, overwhelmed and running in circles.  She was apparently juggling the roles of  receptionist, manager and housekeeper for whatever reason.  She was also needed as a mom to her young daughter who was on the office floor crying – demanding her mom’s attention.  Despite it all, the woman was gracious and apologetic that my room was not ready yet. 

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    Rafting Ruminations

    On Saturday I did something that surprised some people who know me well. I went rafting. For a second time. The first time was over 15 years ago and it didn’t go very well. I wrote about it once but to sum things up, I nearly drowned when my raft flipped in some rapids on the Snake River in Wyoming and I got trapped under the raft, unable to surface to get air. As you can tell, I survived. OR there is internet in heaven. Something that must be true based on the amount of joy we feel when we find free wireless. Heaven must be one big hotspot. Anyway,…

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    Living a Better Story by Losing

    I think in stories now. I could blame Donald Miller for that but mostly I would just thank him. I would thank him because I’m living better stories now than I was four years ago. In some ways, I had no where to go but up. Four years ago I was thawing out from a long season of depression and burnout which had immobilized me in a lot of ways. The “Great Thaw of 2009” coincided with the release of Miller’s book “A Million Miles in a Thousand Years“. It just so happened that it was released the week of my annual Introvert Intermission, a week where I get away from everyone for…