• My Life

    ONE WORD

    A couple of years ago I decided to forego the annual resolution gig. Not that I was always good about making resolutions. Nor was I good about keeping them once I made them. Resolutions tend to make me focus on behavioral changes and result in guilt rather than growth. Honestly, if I made it to February, I would celebrate that as a win.[tweetthis url=”https://www.melissahatfield.com”]”Resolutions often focus on behavioral changes which can lead to guilt rather than growth.”[/tweetthis] Two years ago I stumbled upon a lot of friends and bloggers who had sworn off resolutions and instead were beginning each new year with a theme word – a word they would aspire to; a…

  • My Life

    YOU ARE AWESOME

    Tuesday was the one year anniversary of the eternal homecoming of an awesome guy, Chad Rogers.  Chad was a friend of mine, a friend of thousands, a beloved son, dad, husband, brother, nephew . . . .  I always knew Chad was well-loved and the outpouring of postings on the anniversary of his death was just another reminder of Chad’s beautiful legacy.  Like me, the guy wasn’t perfect and Chad was the first to own this – which is probably one of the big reasons so many of us loved him.  He was real. One of the things I love about social media is the on-going tributes that are shared when someone loved…

  • My Life

    "Don't Put Off Til Tomorrow… " Okay. Tomorrow is Fine but Definitely Not the Day After That.

    I can be a bit of a procrastinator. And by “bit” I mean complete.  I actually started this post three years ago.  Last week I finally cleaned out a kitchen cabinet screaming for attention for years. I ended up throwing away some weird salsa given to me as a house warming present. For my first house. The one I bought in 2000. (Yes, wise one – that means I packed it and moved it instead of throwing it away.)  When I procrastinate on a project and someone offers to help me, I’ll say “No, no.  A lack of planning on my part doesn’t constitute an emergency on your part.”  But I…

  • Faith Reflections,  My Life

    A Life Well-Lived

    I wrote yesterday about the importance of showing up. I’ve thought a lot the past month about how important it is to be present with others simply because I saw one person do it exceptionally well.  Someone who showed up in the lives of others – even when he was miles away.  If there was an Olympic event for being present with others, Chad Rogers would have won gold and broke records doing it. And then he would have made all of us come up and stand with him on that little box to receive our medal together.  The dude excelled at the ministry of presence and I, along with…